Making Love Work: A Therapist’s Guide to Communication, Emotional Safety, and Lasting Connection (The Lens Series: Help and Healing Through Different Lenses) Hardcover – February 20, 2026

Most couples don’t struggle because they don’t love each other.They struggle because stress, miscommunication, and emotional reactivity slowly erode safety, connection, and desire.Making Love Work is a therapist-written guide for couples who want more than quick communication tips or surface-level advice. Grounded in attachment theory, nervous system science, and real clinical experience, this book helps partners understand why good intentions disappear in conflict, and how to find their way back to each other.Rather than asking couples to be perfect, this book focuses on something far more realistic and powerful: emotional safety.Inside, you’ll learn how to:Understand the emotional brain vs. thinking brain in moments of conflictRecognize escalation patterns and repair them before damage buildsNavigate anxious–avoidant dynamics with clarity instead of blameRebuild trust and safety after disconnection or repeated argumentsAddress desire discrepancies without shame or pressureKeep intimacy and “spark” alive in the middle of real lifeCreate shared meaning, agreements, and a relationship that can adapt over timeWritten in a clear, compassionate voice, this book bridges research-backed psychology with practical tools couples can actually use. It’s designed for long-term partners, married couples, and anyone committed to building a relationship that can hold security, desire, romance, intimacy, and growth.This is not a book about winning arguments.It’s a book about learning how to stay connected, especially when it’s hard. Read more